I am experiencing a pivotal point in my business and my mindset. I am finding that as a leader, I am constantly tried, tested, and challenge by life's random curves balls. Is anyone else pondering the irony of life and how it seems like everything is going the total opposite direction of what you want: which is success. Then all of sudden your breakthrough is right around the corner, those that are not spiritual may not understand what I am saying, but can I be allow to speak freely? This is my blog, right? Where I can express myself and be completely honest with the world around me, right? Well, can I speak candidly? Well, it seems to me that my life as a business women, mother, and mentor often contradict and intertwined with one another which makes it awful challenging at times to be me.
I have found when these occurrences surface I am pushed so far out of comfort zone that I just want to scream "Calagon Take me away". Does anyone out there know what I am talking about? I mean everything is just going absolutely bonkers in my world. I mean you wake up and something is wrong with the car, you have a dead mouse in the house you can not find that smells awful, you are receiving the most annoying calls from business partners, clients, and then your Internet will not work so you can not even get any work done, and to top it all off the children are misbehaving. let's not even add the issues of finances being out of wack. All things are happening around you and all you can think to yourself is: "can anything else possibly go wrong and then it does". Has anyone else had one of these days, weeks, months,and/ or years?
Let's not even add financial hardships. Does anyone else need more income,well I know I do so I have to stay glued on the big picture and not my current situation but the lifestyle that I can want right now. When I have to confront difficult situations and/or individuals I must deal with them head on, but often I just feel like running away or completely avoiding the situation. However, as a leader I can not be indecisive,I must be direct, assertive, have a vision, and know what I stand for. After all I have people following the vision and looking for direction. What drives me is my why and my why is so big that it makes me cry.
When I feel like a prisoner of my own mindset, I use my why to keep me focused. Ask yourself why are doing whatever is you are doing, it can not just be to get a house, a car, or pay off debt, because once you complete those goals what is going to keep you going, what are you passionate about? I must perform at a high level, be consistent,and not compromise my vision, because I feel at times people want me to throw in the towel, just so they can say that they told you so, "I knew that business was not going to work".
Therefore, I have to stay positive, upbeat, looking for solutions, and believing that nothing is going to hold me back. But we are all human right, so that sounds good so when things are not going so well, my WHY becomes so important, it's crucial, it is my life support,so I do not go under.
Furthermore, I have to work at this, it is a mindset that I require myself to have, but sometimes I just want to put the professional hat down and let someone really have a piece of my mind,but I do not allow people to pull me out of character. I have great mentors and accountability partners that keep me grounded. I go to them to vent and to get clarity to move forward, they are essential to my success. I also have a cheerleading squad that lift me up and remind me of all my successes and good deeds that I do. They keep me going and upbeat. I commissioned those who read my blog to get these key players on your team today.
The dream stealer's, negativity promoters, and those suffering from excusism are all around you.
Tell yourself right now, and say it loud: "I can not, nor will I back down, quit, or otherwise settle for nonsense. I am sold out, commitment, locked in on my dream and goals. I will not throw others under the bridge but I will be appreciated and considered. I continually put others before myself, I will become blessing to others and will not promote the mentally of dog eat dog without loyalty. The every man for himself motto is out the window in my book. I believe in motivating, encouraging, inspiring, causing people to do what they never thought they could."
It's time to be a blessing to others to share your business opportunity and products with others and not sell your business to them. Be passionate, be bold, and when you speak people listen because you have something powerful to say.
Consequently, would you believe that I have found these methods and my convictions are often misunderstood because I am aggressive, opinionated, and direct. My tone maybe not be soft so people may take offense, but I only aggressive about my dreams and goals and my team's dreams and goals. I want us all to win, so I can not be indecisive about that, I can not compromise and be soft spoken about my why or my team's why. People are starving, losing their homes, their jobs, we are in financial warfare, it's not time to be scared. I am fired up, jacked up, excited about the opportunity to get free of financial bondage and to show others too.
This is why I find my most difficult action to take at times is to execute the decision to withdraw from those I set out to help. But I must avoiding negative people, end unhealthy relationships, and eliminating stress factors. This action is so hard me and I find most caring people have a hard time performing this task, but we need to do it. I am realizing that I can not help everyone and not everyone is going to like me, nor want to work with me, or has the same vision, or mindset that I do. My challenge is meet everyone where they are without losing my personality or jeopardizing my character, vision, or moral fabric. It is not necessary to shrink so that others can shine, but I will inspire and motivate those by my actions and how I handle the negative and challenging situations.
I was told once if you are the biggest fish in your pond then move to a bigger pond with bigger fish. I am also finding to grow as a leader I must associate with better leaders than myself to learn. My mission is to grow a multi million organization of key players and successful leaders so I must seek, be mentored, and be coached by those who have done what I want to accomplish. I also realize that growth can be uncomfortable and can cause tension because some people do not like change. Entrepreneurs are constantly changing, finding solutions,networking, and are masters at multitasking.
I now know the true test of my leadership ability is how I handle a challenge. My character is truly shaped by all the interactions that push me out of my comfort zones. I have found that many individuals would prefer to avoid conflict. I also have discovered most dynamic leaders embrace conflict because it allows them to grow and develop as leader. I believe that endurance and perseverance are the necessary keys to gain success. My motto is that opportunities are like doors, however once you open the door you still have to chose to walk through it. Sometimes just walking through the door and the decision to move forward without knowledge of what's on the other side causes fear. Some individuals will allow that fear to cripple them to the point of being struck, which one are you? I challenge leaders and myself to continue to step over the threshold and move out of our comfort zones because the breakthrough will be on the other side of fear;I promise.
~Lakisha
Financial coach, entrepreneur,motivator
Remember to sow wisely and create a blessed harvest...
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